A former client and best friend, unbelievably dialed in and sensual performance artist: Rachel Kice has been inspiring creativity in the world since the beginning of time. She came into my life about 2 years ago when a mutual friend was filming a movie outside of my home, and she came inside to take a break and suggested: I want us to be friends. Since, we have been having regular meals at a local Indian spot, dance parties and discussions about sex, men and staying juicy. She has been a blessing in my life, since I was not practicing for the past couple of years, now that I have a partner, I understand how necessary that sex is to our feeling connected to humanity, our source of creativity, and WEIGHT LOSS…
I used to worry about food and my weight. I used to obsess over fixing my body. I used to feel overwhelmed, like I needed to control everything and never could wrap my mind around what was actually needed for happiness. I searched the world (literally!!) for keys to happiness and well being. Growing up in an upper-middle class family with more than I ever would need, I knew that material abundance meant nothing if you did not have an experience of authentically connecting and a passionate urge to give back to others.
And then I discovered pleasure. It started with chocolate. I gave myself permission to eat what I wanted and to love up what I was doing in the moment, and let that be ok. If I wanted to eat too much, I knew I was fulfilling a need that was temporary, but I let it be because I had not received love in the time I struggled with anorexia. When my weight became balanced, despite what my head was saying, I started receiving blessings I would never have imagined were possible. For years, teaching yoga and pilates was painful for me. I felt on display and totally disconnected. I HAD NO IDEA WHAT WAS MISSING.
Until i discovered sex…and connection and flow and creative inspiration by letting myself be beautiful, sensual, adored and love another. Until we connect on such a deep level as true intimacy allows, you may also notice an imbalance in food, weight, money or spiritual issues. Does the belief : there is something wrong with me, I feel awkward, strange, different resonate? It may if you have ever experienced a deserted sex life. Why this happens, I have no idea other than that sex heals this imbalance. If someone had taught me or told me what I needed (they did, people just thought I either had a partner or was not interested). I thought I was crazy and everything that goes along with being single, confused, overwhelmed and disconnected.
Looking for a partner is one thing, not having one and being at peace is another, having one and enjoying it is yet another, and not wanting one is another. I have been in all of these places over the past few years, and I now know what I could have done that would have helped me be open to attracting what is a natural and necessary to life. Is there a way to a beautiful sex life? Yes, there is.
1. Practice. Like anything, you get better at sex the more you have it. My current partner keeps telling me: It’s going to get better. I cannot imagine because it is already incredible! Yet, what a reason to keep going, if you know that it only gets better….
2. Courage. To ask for what you want. To let yourself play, come out and show your beauty, to be provocative and to be sensual and juicy. What does this mean to you? Define it, live it, show it, inspire others through your sexual energy in how your dress, how you speak, what you do for others and how you take care of yourself.
3. Integrity. In no way am I recommending you have sex with anyone. Please protect yourself. Please know yourself and your partner first. Please don’t do anything before you are ready. When you do decide, be sure it is with a safe partner who you know can support you. And love yourself, take the best care of yourself possible through the experience and beyond as you notice how sex impacts your life.
4. Gratitude. For letting yourself be sensual, beautiful, in the Divine interplay that sex is. For your partner for joining you in this beautiful act of creation. And love, love, love through the craft of sex.
5. Glow. Sex will increase your glow factor, your natural ability to create radiant health, your natural life force energy. Let yourself have sex often. Watch how the juices that are stimulated have the potential to heal more of your life than you are capable of on your own.
Comments? Do you agree? How is your sex life? Need tips on improving…stay tuned:). I will be teaching workshops on the Goddess coming up in the next month. I hope you will join in on the fun.
xox
Waller
